Damnit. Just damnit. When one learns of a dear friend who will no longer be of this world soon, you just have too many questions with too many non-answers. But the questions….. You could have helped….no You could have stopped it…..nope You could have made it better…..not really And yet, what you can do is... Continue Reading →
Moving Can Be Emotional, For Reasons We May Not Realize #ChangeIsGood
I finished moving from my 480 square foot tiny house to a real place, 1,200 square feet featuring 3 bedrooms, 2 baths and a 2 car garage. Don’t laugh at my Realtor description, I can’t help it! I also had to admit that this was more emotional than any other move from my past. I... Continue Reading →
Pushing Grief Aside, Again #Grieving #LifeLesson
I am moving at the end of the month, so this weekend I have begun the packing process. First, you get the boxes and put them in the garage and just look at them. And then the only word that runs the rodeo in your head is “work”. {sigh} I really shouldn’t complain, after all... Continue Reading →
It Really Is All About Your Attitude #AttitudeDancing
I am going to go out on that limb I never wanted to climb on that avocado tree in my aunt and uncle’s front yard in Pico Rivera in Southern California. I was always so envious of the boys that would just keep climbing higher. What held me back? But just last night I realized... Continue Reading →
Grief and Grieving Does Take Time, Be Present For Others #Grief
Back in 1999 at my first brokerage as a licensed agent in Boise, a gal named Janet told me her story of a daughter who died in a car accident. Sudden death is obliterating as I later found out 3.5 years ago when Paul died of complications from cardiac arrest. One thing Janet told me,... Continue Reading →
My Gosh Darned Broken Heart #RIP Zeke
I don’t even know where and how and when to start this blog post. I had to say a bittersweet goodbye to my sweet dog, Zeke, this weekend. I had him just short of six years but those six years were full of smiles and laughter and f-u-n. I heard about a breeder that was... Continue Reading →
My Journey To The Other Side of Grief #GriefIsLife
Looking back, two and half years later, I find myself in a life I did not expect and yet a life that I now embrace fully. I really thought I would grow old with Paul, doing daily activities together. It’s sort of me and my dog, Zeke, now. I have learned to say yes to... Continue Reading →
November 2016: Dear Paul… #GriefNeverEnds
Dear Paul, I have been thinking of you a great deal. Your birthday passed a few weeks ago. The day you had your cardiac arrest passed, which is the date I consider when you died. Four days later, we had to pull your life support. I knew you were not in your body because you... Continue Reading →
Our Choices Are How We Define Ourselves #MakeGoodChoices
I have been thinking a great deal about the choices I have made since Paul died, almost two years ago. My goals – choices if you will – were to heal, to learn, to forgive, to live. Living was the key ingredient that got me out of bed every day and hike with Zeke, my... Continue Reading →
The Wave of Grief Came So I Swam into My Kitchen #ItsHowICope
Grief has no particular time frame. The cliché that it “comes in waves” is the only tangible way to describe that overwhelming feeling one experiences when you least expect it. Just when you think you have your grownup bootstraps up just so, it all comes tumbling down. Cascading is another word that comes to mind... Continue Reading →